Yes, I am still here. I am slowly getting back into the swing of things after returning on Monday from a long weekend with my boyfriend in California, a belated anniversary trip. Darin and I had the opportunity to stay at my dear friend’s house while she is on her own vacation, catch a John Mayer concert, and explore the beautiful state for a few days. It was so lovely and needed and wonderful. And I’m so thankful to my mom and Darin’s parents for watching our kids so we could spend this time together.
I think when you are living your life in full on parent mode you sometimes forget that you wouldn’t be a parent had you not started out as a couple. Whenever D and I plan date nights or the rare trips away from the kids the whole guilt thing comes on. Guilt about leaving the kids. Guilt about putting all those responsibilities on someone else. That guilt that you should be home with them, that you are being selfish, that it’s a lot for you to leave with someone else. But the more and more we do it, the less guilt I feel because I realize how incredibly vital and important it is for us. It needs to be a priority. Enough with the guilt. I want my marriage to stand the test of time. Enough said.
We were super busy while in California. We drove over to Santa Cruz, caught the concert at an outdoor amphitheater (with NO mosquitoes), took a trip down the coast to Big Sur (amazing), dined in Carmel, walked the Golden Gate, took a ferry up the Bay, and met a friend of Darin’s for supper. But the highlight for me was visiting this gorgeous beach the day we drove down to Big Sur. Definitely off the beaten path, we took a one lane road to get to it and waited in line to park in it’s parking lot. But it was well worth it. After a walk along the sand (I was somewhat obsessed with the purple sand that this beach happens to be known for), Darin and I took a rest on a blanket for awhile and just listened to the waves crash against the rock formations towering out of the ocean in front of us. It was a little slice of heaven and a place that I will definitely be visiting again our next visit.
It was my favorite part of our California date.